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Love In All The Wrong Places....

So you're online trying to find advice on the where-to's and how-to's to find the right partner. Everyone suggests parks, local supermarkets, libraries or museums. But seriously....do you know anyone that says they met someone at their local library? Or your local supermarket turned into a hot meat market (haha... no pun intended). Yes, of course, on T.V...but if T.V was reality, we'd all be perfect. That's probably the reason why (some)reality shows are the IT show to watch right now. This is modern day people!



Fact 1: You can meet him or her ANYWHERE....

You don't need to enroll in a course or join a church solely on finding him...or her. The best place to meet someone is when you are least expecting it....it's probably going to be a completely lazy and tired day when you have no make-up on, a 2 day old beard (guys that is) and its a sweat pants Sunday. It's funny but I've heard of family and friends being asked out on dates in the craziest places...just to name a few:

1) At a traffic light ~ red light of course
2) My dear sister on a date and being asked by one of HIS friends
3) On the freeway ~ not stopped and as they were driving...Who would of thunk it?
And an even better question...How is that even possible??
4) Parking lots
5) Pumping gas

Wouldn't these examples be the last places one could think of meeting someone? Just goes to show it could happen anywhere to anyone when they aren't expecting it.

Fact 2: Be Yourself...For Real

I know a lot of people that act fake or act just plain different when they are trying to impress someone but in reality, they just look like fools. You would be more appealing to the opposite gender if you're more relaxed and low maintenance. Who you are IS who you are, whether you're skinny, fat, grouchy in the morning or by having a short temper.

Everyone has their faults, or a dark side, or traits that aren't desirable. If people didn't have their "dark side" then we wouldn't be human. Everyone has good traits and bad ones....that is what makes the entirety of one....the whole package. J.M

You will find the love when you aren't looking for it...at all....don't worry. If you are single and wondering, I like to think that everyone is where they are in life because the events in their lives brought them to where they are at that particular moment. Maybe you just haven't reached that road just yet. And when you do, don't second guess yourself. You will probably be torn by your mind and your heart, wondering if you should take that crazy leap or that responsible step.


Remember this: you will be completely absorbed in your life, with your interests, your friends, your hobbies, your career and your life plan. You know what's next in your life and you're straight. You're happy and you picture your life becoming balanced because in the back of your mind you think that if he/she was here to share it with you, it would be perfect...but it doesn't really matter because everything is going as it should. Then WHAM!!! the unexpected happens...but that's a whole different post altogether.

Follow your HEART <3

I'm not as young or old as you may think! I'm in the middle~ripe un-old age
of 29~ Years ago, when I was young and naive, I was dating a guy. We were
happy....or so I thought. Less than 2 months after we started dating, I caught
him in bed (red flag! red flag!) with his ex-girlfriend, at least for me it didn't
last much longer than that...









I thought about fighting for him but thought, why should I fight for someone
who can't decide who he wants to be with?? I'm NOT going to be the girl who
waits around for the guy to choose me. Nuh uh...not this girl. So I didn't and I
wouldn't be where I am today if I didn't choose those paths of my walk of life...
sounds corny right? :) But when you are young, the only way to learn is to
make mistakes and I've made PLENTY, but basically, I guess all I am saying is
to follow your heart. You have no idea if staying, going, fighting for your man
(or woman) will work unless you find out for yourself. Don't worry about what
people think, unless, it's an extremely bad abusive relationship (in that case,
get help). I guess we would of stayed together if we tried different options, if
that's what you, dear reader, choose to do...maybe you'll try reading this book
to win him back...we all trust Oprah now don't we?? or maybe to understand
what went wrong???? you could read this book It could really give you
insights on understanding, dealing or maybe, just maybe renewing it.....you
never can tell :)
People deserve second chances don't they?? The choice is yours...........

To Be or Not To Be?????? Love, that is

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.


I may not be an expert on relationships but I've had my fair share of all kinds. Like many of you, I've had a lot of questions, some answered and yet still some unanswered. I've experienced the "in's and out's" of dating, falling in and out (yep! to me there is such a thing) of love, relationship triangles, long distance love, online dating (it sure does work! I am a proud statistic of this!) abusive relationships, dating a much older or younger (perhaps?) partner, dating an addict (worse than cheating, I kid you not!!) experienced the elusive green eyed monster and on and on and on. I've been smacked with questions and "gimme advice, what-should-I-do, should I or shouldn't I?" by my friends and family and I always ask myself, Why are you asking me? I guess I give good advice, or have been through enough to know about a variety of subjects, otherwise they wouldn't keep on asking questions. I'm not a guru by far....but I try.
Recently I read an article that tells the reality and views of relationships. It is sooooo true!! Read on, readers...

Six Important Facts No One Tells You About Relationships

Most of us have many dreams about what relationships will be like or should be like. We’ve lived with these dreams forever, so when the real thing happens, and we find ourselves in a relationship reality can be quite a shock. Some people feel tricked, trapped or like failures. Others do everything under the sun to change their partner, change themselves, or figure out why their marriage is different from the way they thought it would be.

The first step in truly understanding relationships, however, is to realize that what we dream about or imagine, is not necessarily what is going to happen to us. And that doesn’t mean there is something wrong with ourselves or our relationship. It just means that we didn’t know what to truly expect.

Here are six facts that no one ever told you about relationships that is important for you to understand. When you do, you’ll find that many of the tangles loosen and as you relax your relationship can grow naturally.

Number 1) Relationships are not static.

They can, will and must change. No two people stay the same during the course of a life time. Their needs, wishes, and interests vary. It is unreasonable to expect that relationship partners will always grow and change in the same ways, at the same time. This has to be accepted and included in the relationship. It is not necessary for the two of you to always think the same way, like the same things, or be in the same place at the same time. Just because you may have different tastes or interests doesn’t mean that the two of you aren’t in love. For relationships to remain vital and healthy it is necessary to have a core of mutual interests, activities and desires, but, it is also crucial to make room for differences between you. This doesn’t necessarily mean you are growing apart. It may just mean that you are growing, and will have even more love and understanding to bring to your partner in the long run.

Number 2) Romantic feelings of excitement, intoxication and infatuation necessarily wax and wane.

Many people expect to feel “in love” with their partner on a daily basis. By this they mean having romantic feelings of excitement and infatuation, feeling as though they can’t wait to see the person, and miss them if they’re gone. These individuals must learn the crucial difference between loving a partner and being “in love”. Romantic feelings of excitement, intoxication and infatuation necessarily wax and wane. There are times they appear and are very enjoyable -other times they fade into the background. This does not mean something is wrong or that you do not love each other. Love is not based upon fluctuating feelings, but upon a solid foundation of mutual respect, consideration and communication. Although it is wonderful and important to set aside time for romantic time together, the daily on-goingness of life requires a much deeper understanding of what it means to truly love. Love is often tested in the fire, and frequently sacrifice is needed. In order to truly love, one must grow as a person, and that is what relationships are for – to help us grow in our ability to discover what love really is..

Number 3) Love is not dependency.

It’s all right to be who you are, be different from him, have friends and activities of your own. It’s also all right, to give him time with his friends and private space. Love always includes trust of the other, and the knowledge that the more your partner is able to enjoy others, the more he will be able to enjoy being with you. The less you suffocate and possess him, the more he will want to be with you. The less you let him suffocate you, the more you will love him and the more he will respect you. It’s fine to be two, separate, whole people. From that basis, a lot of love can grow.

Number 4) Being angry doesn’t mean you do not love each other.

Some feel that as soon as they are angry with their partner or their partner is angry with them the love has gone out the window. Of course, if anger goes on for too long, or is not dealt with properly, it certainly can erode the quality of a relationship. But being angry is not a sign that he doesn’t love you, or you him. It is simply a sign that it is time for good, open, honest, careful communication to take place. On-going communication is the heart and soul of every good relationship.

When we bottle up our needs and feelings and pretend to be who we are not, then all that has been hidden will explode through anger. But, when we recognize anger, irritation or resentment as it arises, and freely discuss our needs or responses with our partner, not only does the anger diminish, but our relationship grows closer. Take anger as a sign that you are being an opportunity to communicate more and know each other better. Let it make you closer, not further apart.

Number 5) Even though you’re together all the time, you still must make time for one another.

Actually, you must actually carve out more time for each other when you live together. Living together it’s easy to take one another’s presence for granted. But just because the person is there physically, does not necessarily mean you’re sharing quality time. Children, errands, pressures at work and social obligations can create a whir of activity, but not intimate time between the two of you. Carve out intimate time when the two of you are alone. Go some place special. Make time to talk and hug. Make time to have fun alone. This is a wonderful refresher to every marriage and should be done at least weekly.

Number 6) Being together for a long time doesn’t have to take the magic away.

It’s wonderful to have someone at your side, who you share experiences with year after year. There is no way to replace a person who you’ve gone through many years with, sharing common experiences and memories. The sense of continuity and trust that can develop between you is a jewel. It is wonderful to wake up each morning, knowing this person is at your side. As the years pass you know each other better and better, whatever happens you both know there is someone there for you, who understands what you are going through. As our ability to share grows, the burdens of life diminish greatly, and the joys intensify as well.

By Dr. Brenda Shoshanna

Personally, its one of those, "If I Only Knew Then What I Know Now" kind of moments, if only it were that easy though.....you know?